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Is overspending on Valentine’s Day really necessary? It depends.

Written by

Elyssa Kirkham

Posted

February 5, 2020

Few days of the year are as romantically and financially fraught as Valentine’s Day. It can seem that every Feb. 14, singles face high stakes of finding and paying for a date.

For those who are coupled up, however, the Valentine’s Day pressure can be just as high to get the perfect gift for their partner — no matter the price.

Fortunately for budget-conscious lovers, what most people expect their partners to spend on them is less than what they plan to spend on their partner, according to a new LendingTree survey.

We commissioned a survey of over 1,026 people in committed relationships to find out more about how this holiday of romance will affect their finances.

Key takeaways

  • Men plan to spend an average of $95 for Valentine’s Day – more than double the $41 that women plan to spend, on average.
  • Men and women both have the same expectations for how much their partners will spend on them this Valentine’s Day: $39, on average. In other words, men are planning to spend almost two and a half times what their significant others (of either gender) expect from them.
  • Those who are engaged plan to spend the most on average, at $92. People in the dating stage plan to spend $88, and married people plan on spending $57. Those dating expect their partners to spend $5 more, $44 while married and engaged folks expect a touch less, about $38 on average.
  • Overspending for Valentine’s Day is riskier than underspending. Only 4% of respondents – both men and women – would be disappointed if their partners spent less than they expected. But 1 in 4 would be irritated if their partner spent too much.
  • More than 1 in 3 don’t expect their partners to spend a single cent this Valentine’s Day, while more than 1 in 3 don’t plan to drop any money on their significant others.
  • People with auto loans, mortgages and substantial credit card debt plan to spend less for Valentine’s Day then people with student loans, personal loans or no debt at all.
  • Generation Z plans to spend the most ($113), millennials expect the most ($49) and nearly 1 out of 3 boomers would be upset if their partners spent too much.
  • Nearly 1 in 3 want a dinner out for Valentine’s Day, and nearly 1 in 4 say they want nothing. Only 6% want a large gift, such as jewelry or electronics.
  • Only 41% are looking forward to Valentine’s Day, another 5% are dreading it, but most don’t care one way or the other.

Valentine’s Day spending trends

The average amount people plan to spend on Valentine’s Day is $69.

When it comes to who’s spending more or less, the biggest gap is seen between the genders. Men say they plan to spend an average of $95 to celebrate the holiday, while women expect to spend less than half that amount, averaging $41.

The stage of the romantic relationship can also affect how much people plan to spend on the holiday. Those who are married spend less, $57 on average than those who were dating, at $88. Engaged individuals say plan to spend the most on Valentine’s Day, averaging $92.

Valentine’s Day celebrants plan to splurge — despite existing debt

Interestingly, certain types of debt also correlated to higher or lower levels of Valentine’s Day spending.

The average reported spending for people with student loans, personal loans or no debt are on the higher end. This could be a sign that these types of debt, or not having debt at all, don’t have a dampening effect on Valentine’s Day budgets.

But it’s a different story for paired-up people who also have high credit card balances, a car loan or a mortgage. People with these financial responsibilities say they plan to spend a third less than people who just have personal loans, student debt, or no debt.

These big financial commitments can eat into a person’s budget, leaving them with less money left over for romantic gestures.

The difference in average spending between those with high credit card balances and personal loans is particularly interesting, at $62 and $88 respectively. Since debt consolidation is the most common reason people get personal loans, this could suggest that taking such a step is a wise move.

Consolidating debt with a personal loan can lower monthly payments and even lessen interest costs, making debt more manageable.

What people want most for Valentine’s Day

Overspending could be riskier

Dating vs. married: Which couple spends the most?

Generational spending on Valentine’s Day

How to keep Valentine’s Day on budget

Most people’s expectations for Valentine’s Day are pretty down-to-earth, our survey finds. While most people plan to spend $69, they expect their partner to spend less — just $39. And far more people would be disappointed if their partner overspent than if they spent too little.

These findings suggest that most couples could safely scale back Valentine’s Day spending without any risk to their relationship.

Additionally, some of the most desired Valentine’s Day gifts are fairly affordable. Here are some of the most affordable and popular gifts people wanted for the holiday:

  • Nothing at all
  • A card
  • Dinner at home
  • Flowers
  • A romantic or erotic experience

Consider these along with your partner’s preferences, and you can figure a thoughtful yet affordable Valentine’s Day gift.

If your budget is truly strapped ahead of Valentine’s Day, however, this could be a sign to take another look at your spending and bills. Many people are still in debt from the holiday season and could be feeling the burden of these new balances.

If that’s you, debt consolidation or credit card refinancing could be a smart strategy to employ. Try out our debt relief calculator to see how this move could affect your debt costs each month and over time.

Overall, our survey results are proof that most people won’t have to spend much to make their partner feel loved and appreciated. And that reassurance alone can be a big relief to cash-strapped couples feeling the pressure to create a magical Valentine’s Day.